It’s been a while since I update anything. I think last update was before Lily’s wedding.

 

Sometimes you don’t know how good or bad a person is until something happens. I guess for Lily and I, the wedding drew us closer than before.

 

When she asked me to be her bridesmaid, I did it as a favor because she doesn’t have many friends, and I had seemed like a responsible and trustworthy person compared to her other friends who only go to nightclubs for fun. That was one of the reasons why she picked me. But after the wedding, she realized that I helped her with her wedding 100%. I focused on helping her and everything I did, was for her wedding. I never left her side and I helped the day progress smoothly. She shared everything with me, how the in-laws and the family treated her, how they had to deal with money issues. There’s no one else who know as much as the bride, groom, and the family. Effort, money, heart, council – I did it all. I treated it like it was my own wedding.

 

During her honeymoon to China, she brought back a ton of gifts for me. The amount was way beyond my imagination. I was surprised by the volume of things she bought me. They were not expensive – a lot of them around $1 usd – but there were so many that I felt like it was my own trip to China. The things she bought me ranged from jewelry to hair accessories to keychains to cell phone stickers to eyelashes to bra straps to – Chinese mantras, Buddha poster, and Buddha charms. Lucky that we had similar tastes (she influenced me to like lace, bows, flowery patterns), whatever Lily wanted to buy, she just bought similar set for me. And since they were cheap, she just bought double, without having to do extra shopping for me. But great! I got over 15 items of souvenirs….a first out of anyone I knew.

 

China’s goods are definitely way cheaper than HK. Makes me want to go crazy shopping!

 

Oh - and I had been trying to say that – when you want to have a really good relationship with someone, it doesn’t just come naturally or out of nowhere. Usually these relationships start from one side. Then the other side feels what you did and return more “favors”. As long as you don’t feel like you are wasting your efforts for someone (help her without asking for something in return), the person can feel it and return the same sentiment to you. Once both of you are at the level that you can sacrifice time and efforts for each other, then this relationship will bloom. Sometimes these relationship will distant a bit later on, it won’t matter because you shared some experience together and held a memory together – you will remember each other for life, cherish this memory for life. And if there’s a chance, you two can continue where you left off easily, because the bond had been created once before. This is what I learned. I’ve taken another step through life.