FW:

 

Just thought of a memory:

 

I was having a 4 day vacation with my ex to Canada, it was our first away trip with just the 2 of us. It was a sweet trip. During the trip something happened that made us had a big fight, and 2 girls from the same tour happened to be my ex’s acquaintance. During this whole trip, both girls asked me to dump him so many times.

 

It happened when the tour guide found out that her phone ran out of battery in the morning. She needed to use her phone to keep contact with the bus driver and other things during the day. She came up to us because we were friendly with her and we were around the same age, and she asked the 4 of us if one of us could lend her a cell phone for the day. My phone back then was with Verizon so it had no sim cards. The other girl said the same thing and the other girl didn’t want to lend  her phone because she said she wanted to use it. Without thinking I volunteered my ex’s cell phone to her. I thought that 1) I had my cell phone so he could use mine if needed; 2) we were in Canada anyways so we didn’t need to use a phone; 3) the tour guide really needed a phone! Otherwise the whole trip would be ruined. The tour guide was really relieved when someone was actually so nice to lend her his phone to a stranger.

 

I was happy that we got to help someone out who was in need. But my ex didn’t feel the same way. He was pissed that I offered so he kept telling the tour guide that he had a lot of information in his phone, that there’s no privacy. But I didn’t get his hint so I kept telling them there’s no problem, just take the phone for the day. After the tour guide took the phone, all relieved and happy that her problem was solved, my ex got angry and asked why I didn’t ask for his permission and just volunteered his phone up. I just wanted to help her and I am not the selfish kind, so I didn’t realize that my boyfriend actually did not want to help her. He thought that it’s her own problem that she doesn’t have a phone, so she had to deal with it. He didn’t see the other girls volunteer, so he said, why he should volunteer then.

 

It didn’t occur to me until that day that he’s selfish. But it didn’t occur to me until 5 or 6 years later that he is selfish. He didn’t talk to me for almost the whole day, and the 2 girls kept telling him to stop being mad, because I was very nice to help the tour guide. After that the 2 girls, Wing and Monique, kept telling me to dump him. I thought they were joking and never thought that they were serious. They kept saying that – I guess I finally WOKE UP. I was the blind one. Everyone saw it but me.

 

Did I do anything wrong here? Would you lend your phone if it were you? Or was I the one who’s not normal, or too nice?